*Seven Lies that our society is making about Premarital Sex.*

Lie#1. Sex creates intimacy. Genital sex is an expression of intimacy, not the means to intimacy. True intimacy springs from verbal and emotional communion. True intimacy is built on commitment, honesty, love and freedom. True intimacy is not primary a sexual encounter. Intimacy in fact has nothing to do with our sexual organs. Premarital sexual intecourse may hinder intimacy.
Lie#2. Starting sex in a relationship will help you to get to know one another and become better partners in life. Sexual intercourse and extensive exploration in a relationship do not reflect sex as its best. When unrestrained physical intimacy dominates a relationship other parts of a relationshsip suffer. Good sex begins in the head. The lie that premarital sex prepares you for a marriage denies the fact that sexual happiness grows only through years of intimate relationships.
Lie#3. Casual sex without long term commitment is both fun and freeing. Those who settle for short term sexual relationships are settling for second best sex. Life feast is only available to those who are willing to engae life at a personal level, gi ving all and holding back nothing. Good sex which can be a healing agent over time requires trust- trust which grows best in the context of life-long commitment of marriage.
Lie#4. If you dont express youe sexuality freely, you must be repressed, sick or prudish. This can be an intimadating lie, but the facts are that premature sex is bad for your emotional, physical and cultural health.
Lie#5. Sex is Freedom. It is a hardly expression of freedom. Young people who become sexually active in response to peer presure to be sophisticated are actually becoming a victims of curent public opinions.
Lie#6. Surely God understant that this is the 20th century! Scripture is clear that sexual intercourse outside of marriage is sin. Whatever faith we have we do belive in morality and sayings in the scriptures rigth?
Lie#7. Why wait? How can you know for sure that waiting is the best? Obedience to Gods commands includes trusting Him to know whats best for us- even if we dont fully grasp His reasons. When we live within the confines of Gods limit, we live by faith in loving God. Sexual purity is an expression of or confidence in God's goodness. If you decide to wait it will take great courage and strength but if you decide not to wait you will never know what you missed.
The final analysis would be it is an issue of faith. For what ever tribe we maybe at the end of the twenthieth century, the choices we make in our sexual behavoir may be one of the main ways God calls us to believe. Do we dare to be different? Do we dare to believe the thruth of God's word even though it contradicts most of the lies that surrounds us? I belive that God is calling us into this kind of radical faith.