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A Letter To The Christian Singles

"Everyone longs to give himself completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with one another---to be loved thoruoghly and exclusively.

But God says to the Christian: "NOt until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone---with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to ME; with an intensely personal and unique realtionship with ME alone, discovering that only ME is your satisfaction to be found---will you capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you? You will never be united with one another until you are united with ME---exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any onther desire or longing".

"I want you to stop planning, stopwishing and allow ME to give you the most thrilling plan existing---one that you can never imagine. I want you the best. Please allow me to bring it to you. You just keep watching ME, expecting the greatest things. Keep experiencing the sanctification that I am. Keep listening and learning the things that I teel you. You just wait, that's all. Dont be anxious. Dont be worried.

"Don't look around at the things others have gotten or that I've given them. DOn't look around at the things you think you want. You just keep looking at ME, or you will miss what I want to show you. And then, when you are ready, I'll surprise you with alove far more wonderfull than any you would dream of. You see, until you are ready, and until the one I have for you is ready-(I am Working even at this moment to have both of you ready at the same time)-until you are both satisfied exclusively with ME, and the life prepared for you, you won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with ME, and this is the perfect love. And, dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your realtionship with me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection and love. What I offer you is MYSELF. Know that I love you utterly. I am God. Believe it and be satisfied.

Pre marital Sex- Is it safe Physically and Emotionally?

Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24?¹ Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases.² Take these statistics into consideration when making your decision.

Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as a primary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experience unnecessary emotional pain!

*Seven Lies that our society is making about Premarital Sex.*

Lie#1. Sex creates intimacy. Genital sex is an expression of intimacy, not the means to intimacy. True intimacy springs from verbal and emotional communion. True intimacy is built on commitment, honesty, love and freedom. True intimacy is not primary a sexual encounter. Intimacy in fact has nothing to do with our sexual organs. Premarital sexual intecourse may hinder intimacy.
Lie#2. Starting sex in a relationship will help you to get to know one another and become better partners in life. Sexual intercourse and extensive exploration in a relationship do not reflect sex as its best. When unrestrained physical intimacy dominates a relationship other parts of a relationshsip suffer. Good sex begins in the head. The lie that premarital sex prepares you for a marriage denies the fact that sexual happiness grows only through years of intimate relationships.
Lie#3. Casual sex without long term commitment is both fun and freeing. Those who settle for short term sexual relationships are settling for second best sex. Life feast is only available to those who are willing to engae life at a personal level, gi ving all and holding back nothing. Good sex which can be a healing agent over time requires trust- trust which grows best in the context of life-long commitment of marriage.
Lie#4. If you dont express youe sexuality freely, you must be repressed, sick or prudish. This can be an intimadating lie, but the facts are that premature sex is bad for your emotional, physical and cultural health.
Lie#5. Sex is Freedom. It is a hardly expression of freedom. Young people who become sexually active in response to peer presure to be sophisticated are actually becoming a victims of curent public opinions.
Lie#6. Surely God understant that this is the 20th century! Scripture is clear that sexual intercourse outside of marriage is sin. Whatever faith we have we do belive in morality and sayings in the scriptures rigth?
Lie#7. Why wait? How can you know for sure that waiting is the best? Obedience to Gods commands includes trusting Him to know whats best for us- even if we dont fully grasp His reasons. When we live within the confines of Gods limit, we live by faith in loving God. Sexual purity is an expression of or confidence in God's goodness. If you decide to wait it will take great courage and strength but if you decide not to wait you will never know what you missed.
The final analysis would be it is an issue of faith. For what ever tribe we maybe at the end of the twenthieth century, the choices we make in our sexual behavoir may be one of the main ways God calls us to believe. Do we dare to be different? Do we dare to believe the thruth of God's word even though it contradicts most of the lies that surrounds us? I belive that God is calling us into this kind of radical faith.

*Ten Reasons for A Single Girl to keep her Virginity*

1. Sexual relations outside of marriage is immoral.
2. A white wedding dress is only for the brides who had kept themselves sexually pure.
3. America's sexual revolution is rebellion against God. Do not be a part of this rebellion.
4. God will punish those who are sexually immoral.
5. A woman can lose her virginity only once. There are many undesirable consequences associated with losing your virginity before marriage. You may be rejected by a man seeking a wife if your not a virgin. On the other hand, you will win the respect of your husband if you save it for your wedding night.
6. Surrendering your virginity before marriage will affect your self respect and the respect of those who are important to your life.
7. Sexual relations can result to unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted disease and distorted relationship.
   
8. A single man often loses its interest to a woman after she submits to his sexual advances. The thrill is in the chase, once the cycle of conquest is completed then men typically move on the begin the chase again.
9. Virgin women have a delicate ring of tissue known as the hymen at the base of the vagina. Normally, the hymen is broken during the first occurrence of the intercourse. God place the hymen in the female for a reason. An intact hymen is like a seal that is associated with virginity and purity. A woman should honor and respect the integrity of her body. When a woman engages in sexual intercourse prior to marriage , she is sinning against her own body.

I Corinthians 6:18-20

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not you're own: you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

10. We should all lives our lives to please GOD. We cannot please God when we compromise with evil. Sexual immorality can ruin lives and destroy chances of happiness in the future.

Sexual Immorality is done during sexual intercourse when two people become united with flesh. it includes every type of intercourse, (vaginal, anal or oral) prior to or outside the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman.